Grief does not come with an expiration date. My body and mind do not process pain within the framework of a time span. What I feel does not operate with the courtesy of stopping around week 9 because of dead week and finals. My grief is unconcerned with poetry shows, talks about feminism, and assignments that are two weeks overdue. It does not conduct itself like a business; I will not be fine or “better” within in 10 working days.
I am a Film and Media Studies major because I should have been Cinderella, and there should have been many before Tiana. There should have been more space for me to have aspirations more badass than being a princess, or someone more masculine presenting.
In this age of readily accessible memes and Tumblr pictures about love, beauty, and liberation, everyone can be “deep.” We can post pictures of the ocean or pensive selfies, and caption it with a quote from BrainyQuote and watch the retweets and likes roll. We know how to snap when we hear peer-friendly buzz words about oppression and we can offer, “mmmmm” when we hear something we really like.
When used by others as an insult, the controlling image of The Angry Black Woman has caused Black women to feel isolated, humiliated and suffocated for far too long. A controlling image is more than a stereotype. It’s a prophecy everyone is looking for Black women to fulfill; therefore whenever a Black woman even raises her voice, she automatically is seen as: intimidating, scary, ill-tempered, feisty, wrathful, bitter, and ultimately “The Angry Black Woman” who must shrink into their controlling image.
The activism of today is the child of the Civil Rights Movement moderates and conservatives heavily exalt as the model for activism. In fact, dissenters of this movement serve as co-opters of the Civil Rights Movement. They ignore that the Civil Rights Movement lived on the spirits and momentum of agitators and those who would accept nothing but freedom.
To be honest, my claim to Black feminism did not live in that article I wrote a year ago. I’ll boldly assert that my claim to Black feminism lives in every breath I take, because my claim to Black feminism is my claim to life.
This is a demand to 2019 to learn about how they intentionally or unintentionally oppress others, and a demand to this group of world citizens to be both uncomfortable and disgusted with inaction as Stanford students and decent human beings.
At Stanford, we have the privilege of resources many do not have access to outside of this bubble. It is important to acknowledge this fact for our own well-being while navigating hostile spaces. When we leave here, we must work to make self-care a part of our lives, and strive for self-care implementations in our home communities who may not have access to other options.
I am a student to the artists, writers, and scholars before me in the movements around the world demanding justice. My role is what makes me fulfilled, and it is how I will make my contribution. What is your role?
I stand in solidarity with Prosecutor Mosby, and I admire her bravery and tenacity. But this lump in my throat tells me, I would rather have Freddie Gray still be alive.
Etchemendy’s comments prove that the university administration is out of touch with the conversations that have already been happening on campus and the struggle for justice worldwide. We have already transcended dialogue, and we’re ready for change.
Stack’s life is valuable, but it should not be recognized more than the lives on this grossly abbreviated list of slain Black people. His account should not be the voice of the Black experience, yet it will definitely play a part in the erasure of these names, and the list of names we will never speak.
An ISC sorority has great potential for those who find acceptance and love within the organization. Especially with its feminist notions. But as I navigate the world has a Black feminist, an ISC organization was not for me. These organization can be home for many, or alienating for some, although the people may not intentionally try to be.
Outreach to the Stanford student body is always a hit or a miss, and many times, the hard work and care that goes into the event is not digested by the student body. The want to educate those who have so many resources at their fingertips is sometimes unhealthy.
We need solidarity, empathy, and an understanding of why certain actions, languages, and practices hurt people with different identities from our own. Ill-intent should never be the default assumption, but at some point responsibility must be taken for hurtful acts. Everyone has the right to feel safe. No one should take part in another person’s oppression and expect there to be no consequences.
To put it plainly, black feminism is the demand for justice. The BSU’s celebration of black womanhood through a feminist framework functions as a form of resistance to racism, sexism and heterosexism that have made calculated efforts to disempower black people for centuries.
The natural hair movement is about acceptance of Black beauty in all shades and hair textures. It purposely ignores the white beauty standards and uplifts black beauty. It includes all of the women featured in the commercial, and it also includes the girls who weren’t featured in the commercial and felt invisible. They need to learn to accept their curls, kinks, and naps, too. It took me a while to accept mine.
Racial fetishism happens among Stanford students. It happens at parties, in the dorms, and it lives in hookups and comments among friends. It doesn’t only happen among men. Sexually and romantically, racism is alive and well.
Each speaker ended their presentation with a call to action; however, if there were men in the room sincerely ready to answer that call, I don’t think they were given enough tools.
In order for empathy to be worth anything, the differences and similarities between yourself and the person you are showing empathy toward must be acknowledged and respected. Suffering is real, and you do not have to have the same identity to acknowledge it or work to eliminate it.
Sometimes the goal is not to gain allies and water down hurt so it can be stomached by You. Sometimes the goal is to document an experience and give voice to someone who feels silenced. Everything is not meant for You. Sometimes articles are for people who shared a lived experience with the author.
Justice means dismantling oppressive systems and fighting for appropriate equity. Nuance means everything in the matter of justice. Depending on your place in a society that was built around an oppressive framework, a heteronormative, race absent show doesn’t do you justice. Teaching how to operate and dance around male privilege without spelling it out and challenging it, doesn’t do enough.
If Cops and Robbers playwright and star Jinho “the Piper” Ferreira sought to effectively produce a politically charged social commentary aimed to transform an audience and start conversations, then he should not have presented a two-dimensional, controlling image of Black women as uncommented-upon victims at the hands of men. The treatment of Black female bodies is a topic that he presents, but never offered full commentary on, in the play and during the Q&A. This is yet another example of the permeation of sexist ideas in the American psyche.
I rocked a buzz cut at the age of 16 when I made a decision to stop chemically straightening my hair and “go natural.” A relaxer is the name of the chemical treatment used to straighten textured hair, and black women have been doing it for decades. Within the past few, there has been a…