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Victim Blaming

Is victim-blaming ever justified?

The immediate answer is no, of course not. A girl doesn’t wear a provocative outfit with the aim of being sexually assaulted, and she doesn’t walk alone at night in the hope of being raped. To think so is not only ludicrous, but also hurtful and offensive. It is an attempt to invert victimization by saying the perpetrator couldn’t control his urges – urges that were brought on by a sexy decolletage or a few too many drinks. And who chose to wear that outfit or drink those drinks? The girl who was asking to be assaulted! When you slow it down and parse it out, you begin to realize how absurd it is to blame the victims of sexual assault.

But how often do we as a society blame victims in cases other than sexual assault? Leaving your laptop unattended in a public place seems like an uncommonly stupid thing to do – because it is. It’s taking a wholly unnecessary risk – but is it my fault for needing to use the bathroom and wanting to leave my laptop at my work station? What if I leave my dorm room unlocked? If someone were to steal from my dorm room I would anticipate a chorus of people saying, “You should’ve locked your doors!” Again, perhaps rightfully so, since I willingly took an unnecessary risk by leaving my door unlocked. Lastly, if I’m relieved of my Rolex on the streets of Spanish Harlem at midnight, who is at fault? Clearly the mugger, but it would be logical to ask, “Why would you walk around Spanish Harlem with a Rolex at midnight? Don’t you think that’s a little risky?” I would certainly be admonished not to do it again.

So is victim-blaming only wrong in cases of sexual assault, or is it universally bad? For those who say it’s only wrong in cases of sexual assault, I see your point. Sexual assault is a far more intimate and egregious violation than theft. Moreover, victim-blaming in sexual assault attempts to limit a person’s fundamental freedoms to do things like dress how they please.

At the same time, I should have the freedom to park my bike without a lock. After all, it’s not against the law to leave your bike unlocked, but it is against the law to walk off with someone else’s. It’s not my fault if someone steals it, yet I’d be inundated with comments about stupid it is to leave a bike unlocked.

I’m tempted to say that victim-blaming is universally wrong, not only because it is an attempt to limit the freedom of the victim but also because it’s an attempt to take blame away from the perpetrator. In reality, only the perpetrator can prevent a crime from happening; crime is the criminal’s decision. We try to use victims as extenuating circumstances to lessen, or at least explain, an offense.

However, that raises far more interesting questions about whether extenuating circumstances should ever be a factor when considering crime. Let’s say both a rich man and a poor man mug an old lady in Manhattan. Should we consider one of them more or less justified in their actions? If the poor man is more justified, should he receive a lighter sentence? Some would say yes on both counts. But again, we’re shifting blame away from the perpetrator of a crime by saying that external factors acted as an irresistible compelling factor. Could we then say that a college-aged assaulter was so overwhelmed by hormones and a hyper-sexualized culture that he’s not wholly to blame for rape? My answer to the latter is certainly no, but I’m unsure about the poverty-stricken mugger.

Suffice to say, how we think about crime should be re-examined.

Send Chris your thoughts on crime and victim-blaming at herriesc@stanford.edu.

About Chris Herries

Chris Herries is a sophomore majoring in Latin. His interests include rugby, crossfit, weiqi, and public service. Please shoot him an email if you have an issues with his articles.
  • In Palo Alto schools, teachers, the administration, principals and often parents use a cone of silence to protect the bullies and then blame the victims by saying they need to be more self-advocating. Telling a small child that they must “self-advocate” and then not punishing the bully for either the initial incident or any reprisal give a strong message that the victims in Palo Alto elementary schools are to blame, and must suffer the consequences for others’ actions against them.

  • The Beast

    Sure, always blame/punish the bad guys, but it’s always a good idea to do things to lower your chances of being harmed. For example, just because you have the right to get completely wasted every night doesn’t mean it’s a good idea–you’re more at risk to either do certain things you’ll regret later or be victimized.

  • It’s tough though because at the same time I’d want my kid to be able to buck up and defend himself. While I completely agree with your point that bullies need to be punished I’m sympathetic to a parent who wants their kid to fight his own battles.

  • Roadkill

    Being drunk, flashing money, or wearing skimpy clothes in a bad place never justify crimes, but they are indeed risky behaviors. You shouldn’t have to worry, but it isn’t a just world. In the wild, animals take great pains not to be noticed. Wild predators look for the sick, injured, young, or old first. That goes for two legged ones too. Chemical impairment makes the chance for victimization greater. It doesn’t cause crime, but merely increases the chance of being targeted for crime. Night time strolls by one’s self aren’t just dangerous for women! Human vision is reduced and there is no one around to help you if you trip and bust your ankle. That just happens to be conditions predators prefer, too. Do we blame the victims for the crime? No, we should blame the rapist, robber, or hood for their crimes. But when someone is actively, purposely choosing dangerous behavior they do share some responsibility in the odds when simple safeguards could have made all the difference. Carry a small flashlight at night and a cell, perhaps a weapon. When drinking, only do it with friends you trust. If you all are going out, make sure one person stays sober. Pay them off if you have to! Dressing deliberately in a manner to create sexual attention? Then be aware that you may well get that attention so maintain your situational awareness!

  • Guest

    You… You are comparing women to objects… Yes a criminal can walk off with your laptop or your bike, but that is not considered an act of violence. Your laptop will not cry out for the person to stop and be traumatically scarred for the rest of its life. Please do not compare a crime that involves a human life to lesser petty non-violent crimes. If it was a couple went out on a date and the man killed the woman, we wouldn’t say is was date-murder. Rape is rape, stop trying to belittle a victim for making the choice to not getting attacked.

  • _ellison

    You do realize women who wear burkas daily, and have never had a sip of alcohol in their lives, get raped, right? What is your suggestion for them?

    “Am I arguing that girls and women shouldn’t be held responsible for their behaviour? Not at all. If a woman drinks to excess, then falls over in the street, loses her wallet and vomits all over her shirt, she has only herself to blame. But rape is not a consequence of getting drunk. It’s a consequence of a man deciding to rape someone.” Emily Maguire, Princesses & Pornstars: Sex, Power, Identity.

  • thin_line

    But where is the line between dressed appropriately and dressed scantily? If a woman, say in a burka, is raped, people will say, oh no she didn’t deserve it. People will say a woman wearing a tight dress and high heels is asking for it. But what about a woman wearing a tank and shorts? Does it matter the length? Were they too provocatively? How high were her heels? Should anything above three inches be considered ‘asking for it’? Then you can fiddle around and compare: who was ‘asking for it’ more: a woman ‘decently’ dressed but absolutely shwasted versus a woman dressed scandalously but stone-cold sober?

  • Myles

    First off, I think you miss the point. Discussions about steps people can take to reduce their likelihood of being sexually assaulted or raped are discussions of practicality, NOT blame. It is impractical to leave your bike unlocked or a valuable laptop unattended or to get too drunk. It is doubly stupid to leave your bike unlocked in a place where bikes are often stolen, like Stanford, or to get too drunk in a situation where sexual assaults often occur, like campus parties. But that doesn’t in any way make the crime your fault, and suggesting it just makes victims feel shittier about the whole thing, so please stop.

    I think it is very difficult for us dudes to imagine and understand the particular challenges of being female. For example, I have never for one instant felt unsafe at Stanford, yet I know many confident wonderful women on campus who routinely feel nervous walking home at night. The very idea of feeling nervous alone at night is shocking to me, and I would never have even heard about it without talking to female friends about sex violence issues.

    So, to conclude cheekily: while I applaud you for writing about this intensely important issue and hope you continue to talk about it, and while I do not blame you for not getting it quite right, with your practical tendencies Chris you must see how writing an article in the current social climate that rationalizes victim blaming is at the very least pretty darn stupid. If you can make such a dumb mistake in a presumably well-thought out essay that you control completely, perhaps you can sympathize with girls and women who make dumb mistakes in less controllable situations.

    Maybe we should stop spending so much time, thought, and energy on trying to make flawed human beings never make mistakes again, and instead focus our energies on creating a culture and system in which the inevitable mistakes by men and women lead to somebody getting walked home and put to bed instead of raped. This is a men’s issue more than a women’s issue, and we need to start stepping up. I’m not trying to belittle you, just your argument. Your attention and energies are very important, but needed elsewhere. Again, kudos for bringing up sexual assault, we need to talk about it more, but I encourage you to reconsider your views and where your energy will be most useful in reducing sexual violence.

  • Sally Strange

    You went this whole article without noting this important fact: bicycles, laptops, and Rolexes are things you can put down.

    Bodies are not inanimate objects. Not even when there’s a vagina involved. I know some men find it hard to think about women as anything but ambulatory fleshlights, but it’s true.

    Stop enabling rape culture.

  • Sally Strange

    Being drunk, flashing money, or wearing skimpy clothes in a bad place never justify crimes, but they are indeed risky behaviors.

    2/3 of rape victims are sober when they’re raped.

    There is no correlation between style of dress and likelihood of being attacked by a rapist.

    Those things are not, in fact, risky behaviors.

  • Concerned Alum

    How did you get into Stanford?

  • Guest

    If I told a friend going to Caracas to not go out at night for fear of getting assaulted or murdered, would that be victim blaming? If not, how is it different?

  • Guest3

    Here’s another one:

    There’s a war going on in some foreign land, and I want to profit from it by going there to take pictures and selling my shots to news agencies. Well it gets rough, I get shot by a terrorist, maybe I survive, let’s say I do but have PTSD.

    Now, am I to blame for what happened? Some would say no, after all the terrorist was the one who pulled the trigger. And terrorism is wrong and shooting of journalists is wrong and both should be stopped and no one disagrees with that.

    Surely I can’t be blamed for the terrorist actually pulling the trigger. But I should have known there were risks to going and that a tragic outcome could happen. I voluntarily put myself in a dangerous situation. Thus I shoulder some of the consequence.

    Now, substitute war for college party- in other words, an unstable environment with potentially dangerous people. Substitute profiting through photo journalism with profiting through being in the “social zone.” Substitute the terrorist for a sexual predator, people that no matter how hard we try will always be around.

  • doctor_spaceman

    Shouldn’t the perpetrators also drink less to reduce their chances of committing crimes they might not otherwise as well?

  • doctor_spaceman

    “When drinking, only do it with friends you trust.” 2/3rds of rapes are committed by people the victim knows, 38% by a friend.

  • AnnPelham

    By not being an idiot. I assume you’re still saving up, yes?

  • jr565

    Its the same principle. Don’t put yourself in the situation where you might get assaulted/raped/robbed or have something stolen. They are comparable, because in all cases there are things that can be done to LESSEN risk.

  • jr565

    Objects are things you can put down? That’s a ludicrous distinction. Take rape out of equation and just think about a mugging. There are things you can do that make it less likely you are mugged. I’m not going to wait till muggers learn mugging is wrong to protect myself from getting mugged. They aren’t going to learn that lesson,

  • jr565

    You can learn to be street smart. The same way you can learn that when it comes to any of the other assaults you might be victims of.